Celebrating Failure

Abigail and I have bought matching silver rings as a symbol of our devotion to each other And we are firmly committed to having ownership of these rings be a positive experience, despite both of our tendencies to loose objects like these. So what does “design for failure” mean in this case? It means because we are confident that we will loose them, our agreement is to craft a celebration for immediately after it happens. To make it a light festive burden, we are specifying as little as possible about it now. All we currently know is the first time we see each other after either of us looses a ring, we will have an awesome celebration. Perhaps this will promote reckless behavior (which given the rings were $20 for 2 is not so terrible), more likely it will heighten the prospect for generosity.

We have bought rings before. Abigail was interested in a wedding ring and her primary partner understandably thought this was frivolous, since they were not getting married. I, on the other hand, jumped at the opportunity to get her a ring of anytype and while we were at Ganas on Staten Island I bought her a $4 wooden ring.

The important part is not the rings, but the design for failure meme. i would counsel you ponder unalterable tricky behaviors of your own and design a self awareness reward for experiencing it and being at peace with your failures.

About paxus

a funologist, memeticist and revolutionary. Can be found in the vanity bin of Wikipedia and in locations of imminent calamity. buckle up, there is going to be some rough sledding.

6 responses to “Celebrating Failure”

  1. Tikva Adler says :

    pax, i loved this idea so much that i teared up ❤

  2. Lisa-Marie says :

    I like the idea of planning for failure. I use it with multiple sets of keys.
    Lara and I share a certain hair tie bracelet that’s important to our commitment. When we lose one of them, we just wear a placeholder until we re-place it.
    It’s the ‘place’ not the particular object.

  3. Abigail says :

    Its not that Arjen doesnt want a symbol of our commitment either, its more that the diamond engagement ring does not capture us nor our values. We are not only designing to celebrate failure, we are crafting our own rituals that work better, reflect who we are and inspire more creative “engagement”.

  4. Tikva Adler says :

    already done! 🙂

  5. Enid Williams says :

    I love this idea. I will have to think about how it applies to my life.

    I often thank my past self for having shopped for supplies without a clear use, that I am now making great use of. Kind of related, but not quite.

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