i cant write about the details yet, but it almost certain that June will be called False Accusations.
For folks who tuned in late, i often name my months. This is a practice i started when i was living in the Czech Republic at i was informed by Erikk Piper that the Slavs used a completely different month naming practice than the Roman influenced world. It was not about roman gods, but about seasons and colors and cultural things which were happening. Month names like Harvest (for August) and Animals in Heat (for September) or Red (which is June).
So i have a trigger around false accusations, which is stronger than most peoples. This comes from being someone who is with some regularity bending or breaking the rules. Anarchists climb fences, graffiti walls, disassemble sleep schedules, go to jail, and write long essays about why they are anarchists.
And with quite some regularity, in community, in my action groups, with my friends and intimates i have to explain the unconventional decision i make. i am accused of being foolish, naive, a danger to myself and others, and more. i am regularly accused of something that i did do and i spend some fraction of my time explaining why i am doing what i am doing to an upset, curious or confused comrades.
So when someone accuses me of something i did not do, i often get angry. i would likely get far less angry than if i did not have to spend so much time on the legitimate accusations which come my way. But so it goes.
[Update Nov 7th, 2012. The election is over and Ryan/Romney and many other rape republicans have lost. Specifically:
Todd Akin 42% Claire MacCaskill 51% – Missouri Senate seat
Richard Mourdock 44% Joe Donnelly 50% – Indiana Senate seat
Incumbent Rogar Rivard is current down by a mere 100 votes in a state representative election in Wisconsin. In a race which is still too close to call.
So it appears clear that being stupid on rape is bad for your chances as a candidate, even in very conservative states.]
If Mitt Romney loses this election, it will likely be because women who have even the most modest sense of self interest came out and voted against him and the other “Rape Republicans”
When Steven Colbert did his piece on Republicans saying incredible misogynistic, stupid and presumable vote loosing things about rape the final quote (not listed above) was so over the top, i needed to fact check it myself. Apparently, Roger Riverd a state legislator in Wisconsin said last December that “some girls rape easy.” Riverd decided that he would clarify his nearly year old remarks shortly before his election with the following statement:
“He also told me one thing, ‘If you do (have premarital sex), just remember, consensual sex can turn into rape in an awful hurry,'” Rivard said. “Because all of a sudden a young lady gets pregnant and the parents are madder than a wet hen and she’s not going to say, ‘Oh, yeah, I was part of the program.’ All that she has to say or the parents have to say is it was rape because she’s underage. And he just said, ‘Remember, Roger, if you go down that road, some girls,’ he said, ‘they rape so easy.’
“What the whole genesis of it was, it was advice to me, telling me, ‘If you’re going to go down that road, you may have consensual sex that night and then the next morning it may be rape.’ So the way he said it was, ‘Just remember, Roger, some girls, they rape so easy. It may be rape the next morning.’
“So it’s been kind of taken out of context.”
If this feels like a compelling case to you, a useful clarification of a misunderstood remark, and that Roger is just pointing out that some girls will just conveniently change their mind and blame a guy the next day for the sex they happily had the previous eventing and call it rape, then this is not the post you want to be reading.
What is true, is that their are a tiny fraction of reported rapes which are actually the false accusations that Mr. Riverd is worried about (the largest study shows this about 3%). What is actually the case is because the police and court systems are so unbelieving and abusive towards rape survivors that the real problem with rape is under reporting (54% of rapes go unreported by the largest study). But this is not really the problem with Mr Riverd’s thinking.
The problem is Mr Riverd and the culture in general’s assumption that men are in danger of being surprised by rape allegations, that these come from out of nowhere, when you were just having a good time. The presumption here is that consent is a fickle thing, and that women are even fickler. But the real problem is that often men are not working hard enough to make sure they even have it.
It is part of the over arching cultural narrative that women need to do more to stop rape: they need to say “no” more clearly, they need to not wear short skirts, or go home with buddies, or not go the places where women get raped. It is part of the intellectual dodge in which men do not have to be inconvenienced by the thought that they are creating and supporting rape culture. That if women are better they can solve the “rape problem” which is after all a women’s issue.
Actually, Rape is a patriarchy issue, which is in some ways obvious and in many ways insidious. Rape is not something you can relax and enjoy, as suggested above. It is not part of gods mysterious plan to bring some children into the world. The Romney campaign and the other rape republicans have been trying get voters to focus on the economy but what could turn this election (and country) around, is if instead of voting for their dollars, voters instead focused on their daughters.
Another rape republican, Rick Berg who is running for the US Senate from North Dakota, has been advancing legislation seeking life sentences for raped women who seek abortion. This brings up the frightening prospect that rapists can mostly walk free (only 2% of rapists are convicted). While women who seek remedies to this crime go to prison for life. [Adopted from this excellent and disturbing letter to the Huffington Post about the words of Richard Mourlock.]
Thanks to Abigail for editing and references.