So the way i am creating community is i am telling stories about it. And as is my belief about engaging story tellers is they change their tale to suit their perception of the audiences desires.
As i tell the story about Chubby Squirrels, one of the pieces i have been stumbling over is the piece about single moms. While it is true i am interested in having moms who are poorly served by the communities movement given a chance to contribute as i have seen them in the right collective circumstances. What i think we are trying to emphasize in this project is something more complicated and richer.
Part of the problem is with the tag “single moms” first off it makes the kids somehow secondary, despite the fact that the single moms will be coming with their kids for at least some of the time. But really the problem is that the label is too limited.
“Extraordinary families” is my current terminology for what i want to include in this evolving story. This could include complicated poly families, like the one i am in – the Star Family. It could embrace single parents or folks like my friend Twiggy, who’s partner is at sea for a significant fraction of the year. And it could even be welcoming of more conventionally configured nuclear families – as long as the members of it had an extraordinary willingness to be part of a supernormal family.